People like myself who have been severly abused, and told that they were never going to amount to much in life, have severe ways of dealing with misfortune in their lives…they usually take a cataclysmic view–many resort to suicidal ideation, or other forms of self-destructive behaviours because the cataclysmic event to them is proof that they are worthless individuals.
This is just one of the issues The HeartSoul Ekonomia Institute want to address in our class the Prodigal Daughter Course. We want people to understand that misfortune in life is just an opportunity to grow beyound one’s comfort level, to gain some humility, and to learn to succeed in any environment…it is also about defining success in how one responds to adversity.
You feel that life has betrayed you, A unexpected death in the family of a close and cherished family member, Things don’t go as planned, it seems sometimes everyone has turned against you…a familiar story. Instead of turning to drugs, sex, or other activities that help you numb out by inducing trance-like states within you, The HeartSoul Ekonomia Institute through its course the Prodigal Daughter course want to help people tap into a healthy support systems that can help them weather the inevitable bumps that life has to offer.
Call a trusted friend or family member who is able to listen to you. There are low cost therapy options that one can go to in your communities, sometimes seeing a therapist can cost as low as 5.00. Exercise, and go ahead and buy your favorite butter pecan ice cream with apple pie. And the two slices of pizza before hand, and see a feel good movie, such as It’s A Wonderful Life. They don’t make ’em like that anymore–and get yourself a Andrew Sisters movie, and if that don’t get your spirits up—I don’t know what will—it’s fun, it’s makes you laugh, it shifts your mood from the spiral of dispair. Do it….and get a friend to join you.
For me also, I find that it is good to read scripture, the Psalms and to pray….it helps…crying helps, and venting a little helps—but what ever you do, don’t succumb to the thoughts that tell you you are are worthless, and that this latest setback is proof, that it is better to be be dead than alive. Humiliation will pass, and God always gives new beginnings, everyday is a new beginning, and count your blessings, and you will see how much He has given to you already!!!! Just know that there is more of that to come. Another good spiritual strategy, is to ask for strength to endure, and not merely endure. And yet another spiritual practice is to be honest with yourself, and look at the mistakes you’ve made and learn from them for the next time. Do not beat yourself up, just say, hey I could have done that differently–and look at how triggers in that situation caused you to reason and act in a way, not in your best interest. This is important for people who come from emotionally adverse environments. It is important to breathe, ask assistance from God, and assess with a sober mind all aspects of the challenge before you. Remember, every good and experienced project management planner knows, that no project is without its challenges, and need for adjustments…Its just the way it goes, stay within cost, on time, and within scope—well, no project does that perfectly…you plan for risks, for funds, for personnel, and the unseen happens. It’s life, pick up your head and learn from it, do what you need to do to complete it ethically, and move on.
I want to say thanks so much to Stephanie Black for hanging in there with us, as we deal with the contingencies that have popped up here in Utica.
Today’s Post Scripture Reading:
1Corinthians 12:27-31 — 1Corinthians 13:1-8
Now ye are the body of Christ, and members in particular. And God hath set some in the church, first apostles, secondarily prophets, thirdly teachers, after that miracles, then gifts of healings, helps, governments, diversities of tongues. Are all apostles? are all prophets? are all teachers? are all workers of miracles? Have all the gifts of healing? do all speak with tongues? do all interpret? But covet earnestly the best gifts: and yet shew I unto you a more excellent way.
Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing. Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.
And when he had called unto him his twelve disciples, he gave them power against unclean spirits, to cast them out, and to heal all manner of sickness and all manner of disease.
These twelve Jesus sent forth, and commanded them, saying, Go not into the way of the Gentiles, and into any city of the Samaritans enter ye not: But go rather to the lost sheep of the house of Israel. And as ye go, preach, saying, The kingdom of heaven is at hand. Heal the sick, cleanse the lepers, raise the dead, cast out devils: freely ye have received, freely give.
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